Motivational speaker Jim Rohn famously said that
“We are an average of the top 5 people we spend the most time with.”
This relates to the law of averages, which is the theory that the result of any given situation will be the average of all outcomes. This is true of relationships in the social sense and in the business. Whether we like it or not, research shows that we are greatly influenced by the environment around us – including our most inner circle of friends and colleague’s.
This was the topic of conversation between a friend and I over lunch yesterday.
We both reflected on times when we involved people or circumstances in our lives that were more toxic and detrimental to our health; physical, emotional or chemical influences on our health that came from our most inner circle of people.
A part of continual growth in our lives and health revolves around welcoming in new people, habits and positive influences into our lives. The five people you spend the most time with strongly influence your health and your success.
The sometimes-unfortunate reality is if a person or situation is bringing your average down – you need to reduce that person’s involvement in your life.
Whether that a toxic relationship in the home, a friend, a workplace or social setting – not ridding yourself of the stressful load may be the one defining factor that may be hindering you from optimal health and your life vision and success.
So as an exercise, work out who are the top 5 people you spend your time with, what are their negative and positive qualities they bring into your life. Reflect on whether the average of those qualities they bring to you is a reflection of who you truly want to be, or is the average the defining factor holding you back.
Remember, you are an average of the 5 people you spend the most time with….including yourself.